Oh wow - are you sure you wish to give this as a saying on a cup to your wife ?
Or is it that she can choose the one upmanship to others, who are reading her cup as she drinks out of it.
I can see this sort of thought is a way to reclaim ( ... or to seek to gain power over ?) others who are ... gosh roo (being me) - spit it out ... who are displaying disturbing behavior towards you.
And even in me questioning this - each of our journeys are unique and also difficult. And the ability to stand confidential as respectful of each among others - sometimes - it can be by statements such as this that gets us through pinch points.
I am hoping that someone in this community will respond to this reasonable request. And without us as a community getting into the itty gritty.
Also note - here each one of us are peers - equal to each of us.
For to be able to also say things like this, in our target language, and to understand this when we come across it, it is empowering.
For language learning, as well as in social contexts.